Go back to the previous pageIf your choice of partner does not match the expectations of your mother, choosing a mate may trigger a real schism. A drama and a family dispute that can blow your emotional bonds. It is true that the mother is not who should choose for you, but keep in mind that when your parents do not accept someone, can be for something. Do not close yourself and try to analyze things calmly and from a distance. Be prudent and practical.
Some things matter and others that should not matter that much. When you are choosing a partner, always think of crossing your fingers at the time of presentations to your family. What will they think of him or her? What impression will cause my parents? In the end. We became a sea of doubts and insecurities. This situation has been portrayed in the movies until exhaustion. Perhaps the best of those films, which form a real subgenre, is ‘Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner’ with Spencer Tracy, Sidney Poitier, and Katharine Hepburn. In that film, a liberal family waits impatiently for her daughter back from a trip in which she has met her boyfriend. The surprise is capitalized when it turns out to be an attractive lawyer … of the black race.
Inquisitorial glances, gestures of nervousness… the catalog of behaviors that arise is infinite, but there are a number of tricks that can make you succeed without suffering. But if you’ve already had the inevitable argument to be a person that they do not approve, you should know that this confrontation, depending on individuals can bring out the worst in each. It is about convincing everyone that they have every reason to trust you and let your judgment decisions about your love life. What to do? It is best to act maturely.
Does your mother know that you are going seriously? Maybe for questions of education, age or ethnicity, at first, your mother will put her hands to the head. Then came the thousand conversations about the problems of maintaining a relationship with someone older. Also, some squabble. Take note of all the inconveniences that she have suggested. To show half the world and especially to your mom, that’s your thing with him or her is serious, consider leaving it clear with all the gestures that can serve to prove it.
Do not lie and make her know that you care about her opinion: Not telling the truth makes you unreliable and immature. If your mom has seen you out with this guy / girl and told you that she don´t like him/her, you should not accept the prohibition, of course, but lying always makes things worse. If she discovers the truth, goodbye alternatives.
And then do not be carried away by anger or frustration. Act calmly and ask her motives, let her know that you really care about her opinion. Serenely talk with her and remind her that you have received a “responsible in freedom” education. Now play to be consistent.
In any case, if that does not work, you should gain time to go slowly convincing. Negotiate with her.
5 good question to ask your wifeYou should never be afraid of ‘what will people say’: Another common mistake is to worry about what others think of you and the person you want. You know that you cannot fall nor you nor anyone-well to everyone. That is not a failure. It’s normal.
Achieve harmony: It is possible that the first meeting between your partner and your parents have not been the best. Maybe your family does not accept it for whatever reason. But day by day, they will have no choice but to accept. Harmony may be slow in coming. But it is demonstrated by actions. With self-confidence and setting limits. “I know where my happiness is, if you accept it, then we’ll all be happy.” With effort and determination, you will succeed.
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